The girls are napping, laundry is done, I just submitted an article and I FINALLY have a few minutes to update this blog I wanted to update much more often than I’ve been able to:
Whew! I often do not use exclamation points, but the last couple months have forced me to use that punctuation mark. Why, you may ask? Becuase the following has happened just in the last few weeks:
- The girls celebrated their Half Birthday (Lu and Lo are six months old… when did this happen?)
- We officially became homeowners, painted some rooms and already learned that when there are house issues – it is now up to us to deal with them (we now are real-life adults)
- The girls started eating baby food.
- We moved out of the cluttered, cardboard boxed up apartment
- This mom FINALLY found some continuous freelance writing gigs
A lot has been going on which has led to nonstop chaos – as if we didn’t already have enough of that. Though all of these changes are positive and exciting, they also have shown to be overwhelming and stress-inducing.
FREELANCIN’ THROUGH THOSE FINANCIAL BLUES
Houses and children mean money and I have been struggling financially for a year since being put on disability during my pregnancy. Though I have been able to get the occasional freelance assignment and I started teaching a couple classes at Up! Aerial Fitness, I am someone who needs to be on a continuous schedule. Not having ongoing, regular income has been incredibly defeating. Mike and our families have been incredibly supportive when it comes to helping out if I need I need this kind of support, but I absolutely hate taking help from others when it comes to money.
I want to make my own money – plain and simple.
After graduating college, I lived a very independent life – my own apartment, my own job, my own dog, my own lifestyle. I proved to myself I could financially support myself while still finding time to go out and enjoy the life I was living (whether that be through taking aerial classes, writing at local coffee shops, performing dance routines or going out with friends). Even though I love the current life I lead and couldn’t imagine it any other way, it has just been hard not having continuous income.
Luckily, I recently landed an ongoing gig with Moms.com through the Valnet Media Group (on top of the bimonthly blogs I do for Mommee Coffee and random assignments I prepare for Daily Media Studio and In Good Health Newspaper). The thing with Moms.com is that I must submit three to four articles a week. This is what I’ve been looking to do for about a year now – a regular, ongoing writing gig. Being these articles are related to motherhood (even though they are more laid-back than professional kinds of pieces), I am able to use personal experience when prepping them – as well as experiences I have witnessed. They are definitely timely and somewhat research-based, but getting some kind of regular income will be ridiculously nice.
SIX MONTHS WITH COMPLETELY DIFFERENT, UNIQUE TWIN GIRLS
These two little girls have taught me so, so much over the last six months. They have taught me so much about my patience, endurance and how much I am able to do on my own.
Which is more than I ever imagined I could do.
Since Mike works during the day and often continues to stay busy after work (or take some well-deserved time for himself), I am constantly caring for the girls. I am constantly feeding them, adjusting them, bringing them to appointments, doing their laundry, doing their diapers, giving them baths, entertaining them (if they are not entertaining each other), soothing them and putting them down for their naps. Mike is a great, helpful dad and loves them dearly, but he also deserves time for himself since he is the major breadwinner of our family.
Being they started napping for two to three hours in the afternoon, I have been taking that time to get freelance articles started (as well as laundry, unpacking, cleaning and maybe the occasional nap for myself). Even though they often let me run around and get things done when they are up and playing, I am learning that the best time for me to get things done is during their naptime and after they are put to bed (I am NOT a morning person – that has not changed). Again, I am ridiculously lucky that they typically go down to sleep between 8:30-9:00 PM and don’t wake up until between 7:00-7:30 AM – then after they’re feeding, they usually nap until about 9:30 AM, allowing me to do the same.
All you moms reading this who are swearing and yelling at the screen, I know I am in for it when the girls become toddlers and teens – we have been lucky and remarkably, the schedules we’ve created for them have been working well.
They both just started eating baby food out of the jar and haven’t been really giving us a hard time (except for they aren’t huge fans of bananas, which makes Mike and I sad because we go through bananas like water). They also didn’t have any issues with rice cereal – even after many people expressed how we shouldn’t go that route due to issues they had experienced with their own little ones.
They both are rolling around like crazy and love to grab for everything and put it in their mouths. They also are hitting very different milestones – Lucy is babbling clearly and saying ‘Mama’ (even though she definitely doesn’t know who Mama is) and Elora is very close to sitting up on her own and close to holding her bottle full-time. Lucy will nap, but prefers to nap on her own terms while Elora is a great scheduled napper.
ATTENTION MAMAS WHO HAVE A BABY WITH A TONGUE TIE: If you are going to get rid of the tie, get that thing clipped or lasered off before the baby hits six months of age. For those who don’t know what a tongue tie is, it is a small piece of tissue connecting the tongue to the bottom of the mouth. Many babies have these and it sometimes can lead to speech issues if not lasered or snipped. I would suggest (and I am absolutely NOT a professional and never will be when it comes to parenthood) not waiting for it to ‘stretch out over time.’ Since Elora was born, we were told she had a very teeny-tiny tongue tie that would probably stretch out. Welp, it hasn’t and now she needs surgery on it because she is over the age of six months.
I am not happy and hate thinking about her going through any kind of procedure – especially one that could have easily been avoided.
WHAT I HAVE LEARNED OVER THE LAST SIX MONTHS
- Twins are not the same human beings – they are completely different, unique little individuals in absolutely every way (and I love it).
- Having my girls on a schedule has been a godsend.
- I am absolutely in LOVE with the hand-knit toys my girls have from Cuddle + Kind.
- Getting packed and ready to travel (whether that means going to the store or going to Syracuse) does not get any easier. There is always way too much to bring.
- On top of that, packing and unpacking that darn double stroller in-and-out of the trunk doesn’t get any easier either.
- Using Instacart may mean spending an extra $5, but it is SO much easier than pushing a double stroller and shopping cart through Wegmans. Call me lazy, but it has been so useful.
- I always thought I’d be a Pampers mom, but I have become quite the Huggies mama. I have also learned that even if you have a preference, if there is going to be a blowout, it’s going to happen – no matter what kind of diaper you use.
- There is such a thing as a Mom Haircut. I never thought I’d give in, but I got that urge to chop off my hair… and I did. It has felt so nice and I have been trying out Ouidad products and so far, so GREAT!