HITTING THAT BREAKING POINT
I have been one miserable mama lately. I have been overwhelmed and exhausted and just plain grumpy. One of my girls has been the fussiest of fussy eaters while the other had a pretty bad booty rash for a little bit. Cleaning the apartment, doing laundry, getting articles done and caring for the girls on my own during the day definitely gets tough. The apartment is cluttered with cardboard boxes for our upcoming move and I have been stressing about all of the chaos that comes with moving into a house. On top of all this, I’m still not working a full-time job and I hate not contributing financially the way I want to. I’m lucky to at least be able to teach aerial and grab the occasional freelance article – but I need to do more.
To say the least – I have been incredibly stressed.
However, I know whining and crying will not get me anywhere. I also know my misery rubs off on the girls (and Mike) and that is not fair to them. I also know that I am not alone. So many new parents feel this kind of anxiety and it is just part of the transition into parenthood. If you are a parent who smiles, jumps out of bed and frolics to your screaming newborn’s crib every single time they wake you up at night – please give us the magic pills you have been taking.
I have always wanted to be a mom and I absolutely love being one. I knew motherhood would be difficult, but you truly have no idea how difficult it is going to be until the baby (or babies) arrive. You can relate to friends and family members who are parents, but no one will ever truly know what it is like to be in your shoes. You know yourself better than anyone else. It is up to you to decide how you want to handle that stress when you come face-to-face with it.
We all handle the stress of parenthood differently… which leads to my next venting point.
ALL PARENTS PARENT DIFFERENTLY – AND THAT IS OKAY
I have many friends, family members and acquaintances who are parents. Since social media is such a strong force these days, we get a peek into the lives of families and the beliefs linked to those lives. It can be incredibly refreshing to see posts and photographs people put up because, most of the time, parents can relate. It is nice to see the struggles, successes, and suggestions other parents post about because a lot can be learned.
However, I have also found social media to be incredibly frustrating because not all parents see eye-to-eye.
It is terrific that parents have different parenting styles. That is what makes each family unique. Unless the child is being neglected or abused, you are free to parent your child in the way that works best for you and your family.
If you choose not to breastfeed (or are unable to) and you use formula – that’s fine.
If you choose to have a c-section instead of a vaginal delivery – that’s fine.
If you co-sleep with your child or sleep with them in the same room – that’s fine.
If you choose to spank your child – that’s fine.
If you swaddle your child or give them a binky to help them fall asleep – that’s fine.
If you use a safety harness to keep them within a safe distance to you – that’s fine.
IF YOUR CHILDREN ARE HEALTHY AND HAPPY (AND YOU ARE HEALTHY AND HAPPY) – THAT’S ALL THAT MATTERS. *There are pros and cons to every choice and style of parenting*
I am in no way a professional when it comes to parenting. I truly believe it is impossible for anyone to be a professional when it comes to parenting because of all the different styles and beliefs that are out there. All I know is from my personal experience and what I have witnessed and heard through social media, friends, and family.
With so many people becoming offended and annoyed with the beliefs of others these days, can’t parenting communities be accepting and understanding of one another at least? There is no such thing as the perfect parent. The most we can do is understand one another, learn from one another and grow.